Mar 29, 2006

What is happiness?

Statutory warning : You are bound to get confused and your thought processes might undergo a serious change when you read this post.

A big question for which I'm searching an answer. I know that the meaning of happiness varies from person to person. But I'm pondering on what happiness means to me. Or what happiness meant to me so far in my life? I'm undergoing a change within myself. My definition for happiness is bound to change.

In these past years of my life, my happiness was always dependent on success, achievement, objects or people closer to me.

When I eat soan papdi, I feel happy. But if the supply of sugar is stopped through out the world, is my happiness lost?

When I stood first in my school, I felt happy. What if there was only one person in this whole world (or two, myself and the one who gave my scores)? Will I still be happy?

When I am with people whom I love the most, I feel happy and comfortable. But the golden rule of life is that it has to meet death face to face some day. This rule applies to every life. The earlier we accept this fact, the better we would be prepared to face the deadly monster called death. What will happen to my happiness then?

When I sleep in my bed for long hours, I feel happy. I love sleeping. But will I be happy when I take my life's longest sleep now?

As told by our teacher in Art of Living course, being happy is our normal state and we do not need anything to be happy. I imagine myself sitting on the floor on an empty, dark room alone. There is nothing inside the room apart from the four walls. I am in company with myself. Will I be happy? No way. I would feel miserable and in the end, turn mad.

I find happiness in the small flower blossomed in my garden.
I find happiness in the serene sunset and the evening sky that I get to watch these days.
I find happiness in the bright face of the kids playing in the park.
I find happiness when I chat with my family members and friends.

They are just short bursts of beautiful time. What happens after those few minutes? Why do I base my happiness on the presence of nature, books, music and people whom I love the most?

I still couldn't find an answer. What is happiness, my readers?


Skely said...

I think the answer is in your post itself...

You basic query is what if the things in which you find happiness are no more available..

Well that's the beauty.. You will feel happy not for the same things always.. You will find happy for something new which you have never experienced..

You would find happiness when you stood 1st.. for the first time, later the happiness quotient decreases...

Happiness is

1) a state when you experience something which you have never done before...

2) a state which makes you feel very comfortable, at what ever had happened at that moment..

Whatever it is one will happy for anything if he/she decides...

You cannot define happiness for certain things, it will just come and go...

Experiencing it is what that matters...

p.s: I don't know if I answered your question, but just wrote what i felt..

Unknown said...

Id steal the first phrase of Skely, the answer is in one of the lines..
u were saying that you felt happy when you felt happy when you stood first, and in the next line you question "what if you were the only one?"
this is exactly what happiness is.. there has to be many moments of non-happiness to distinguish from happy moments. here i fankly contradict with several renouned saints, they suggest that the best way to be happy is to be happy always.. i ask "if you are always happy, how would you know that you are happy?" and is not the sole purpose of being happy defeated?
hope im not confusing you..

Anonymous said...

talking abt death, Youdhisthira was asked what is strange? he replied, all humans die but they live as if they will never die.

he was also asked, what makes a man happy? he replied - "his own good deeds".

well, these days good or bad is questionable, but ya...its one's own good deeds make the person happy...

Anonymous said...

Happiness is only a state of mind. Aren’t we more than often neither happy nor sad? I think we all don’t mind being happy or in the neither-happy-nor-sad state. The only state we detest is sadness. However, I have often realized at hind sight that what made me sad some day was actually a boon in disguise. For example, I got not-so-great grades in school final and hence could not make it to top colleges which most of my friends did make it to. But today, after a few years, I got to work with a few of them and I got to lead them. I am not trying to boast here. Maybe, I became the person I am, because I realized that I was not in the best of schools and I had to carefully build my future. My friends, it is apparent, got complacent because they were happy to be in a place of their choice. So, I feel that though happiness is desirable, sadness/dejection helps us grow faster. As they say, 'Greatness is always achieved when operating outside your comfort zone'.

By the way, I came blog hopping and could not resist posting this comment. Nice blog.. Keep it up!


Unknown said...

too complicated to think ..
people , things - make you happy .. just be happy .. dont think too much ..
if things we find happiness are not available , we find new things which will give us happiness and we move on .. i agree with what skely says ..

you find happiness in something which you will discover .. i should have seen somebody ski on tv before i felt i will feel happy when i ski .. i wanted to ski ..

Anuradha Sridharan said...

Skely, I agree with you. Our happiness quotient keeps varying based on new experiences in life.

Geodexter, Another good point. To identify happy moments, we need not-so-happy moments as well.

Gandhi, your opinion seems to be slightly contradictory to me. I would agree to "Your own deeds make you feel happy" , irrespective of whether it is good/bad.

Vidya, nice to hear from you. A superb thought in your comment. Things that might make us feel uncomfortable or sad may turn out to be in favour of us in the future.

CP, It was too complicated to think but after all your thoughts, it doesn't sound that complicated :-)

Anonymous said...

yep, i meant the same thing actually...wrote 'good' by mistake...

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